Emily Wren PhotographyMobile dating apps like Tinder and Hinge tend to be the focus of takedowns about hook up culture and the damaging turn that modern courtship has taken. The most recent example dropped into our laps earlier this month, when Vanity Fair contributing editor Nancy Jo Sales wrote an in-depth piece titled “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse.”
Sales explores what she calls the “all-day, every-day, hand held singles club” — a catastrophe caused by the collision of technology and casual relationships. Tinder labeled the Vanity Fair take as “one-sided” and “biased," while New York Magazine’s Jesse Singal questioned the Vanity Fair’ article.
“Tinder super-users are an important slice of the population to study, yes, but they can’t be used as a stand-in for 'millennials' or 'society' or any other such broad categories," Singal argues. "Where are the 20-somethings in committed relationships in Sales’ article?...Where are the men and women who find lifetime partners from these apps?”
Turns out, they're right under our noses.
In early 2013, Jenny Shaab and Ben Marder were both novice Tinder users. They swiped right on each other’s profiles, signaling to the app that there was mutual interest. Just over a year and a half later, they were married. (An editor at Tech Insider attended their wedding.)
For the new Mr. and Mrs. Marder, now 27 and 25-years-old respectively, the Tinder takedowns that have bubbled up over the last few years have been disheartening to read.Emily Wren Photography
Shaab says she sees articles like Sales’ as “disparaging pieces of journalism” that make her feel like she has to “defend” how she met her husband.
“For a lot of people," Shaab explains, "[Tinder] is not a joke. It's honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me.”
Jenny and Ben aren’t the only ones who have had this type of experience on Tinder, either. Tinder promotes the #swipedright hashtag on their website, encouraging app users to post their love stories to Twitter or Instagram.
There are a ton of couples who are more than happy to credit their engagements or marriages to Tinder.
We reached out to Tinder to see if they had any statistics on marriages that have resulted from their app.
"While we don't keep record of the total number of Tinder success stories," a spokesperson from Tinder told Tech Insider, "we receive hundreds of stories each month from people who met on Tinder and are now engaged or married." The company declined to provide any hard numbers.
They even send gift bags to some of their users who send success stories to the site.
One Instagram user posted the below photo with the caption: "The benefits of swiping right. #giftbag #swipedright #tinderstories #swiperight #engaged @tinder"
*It's his birthday week and yet I am the one who received a special gift ☺️ Thank you @kasperbc for putting a ring on my finger, for choosing me to be your partner in life and I will choose you only you for the rest of my life. I am officially engaged! Feeling grateful. Thank you @Tinder, Thanks to You 🙏* #soontobemrs #LOVE #absolutelyYES #6th* Loving all these hashtags, we're not the only successful couple in #Tinder, there's a lot out there!!! Super happy!!! 😊☺️😉#tindercouple #swipedright #itsamatch #YouandKasperhavelikedeachother #Tinderlovestory ➡️❤️